Great post at Lifehacker from James Altucher , ‘The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Mediocre People’
We want to make our business, make our art, sell it, make some money, raise a family, and try to be happy. My feeling, based on my own experience, is that aiming for grandiosity is the fastest route to failure. For every Mark Zuckerberg there are 1,000 Jack Zuckermans. Who is Jack Zuckerman? I have no idea. That’s my point.
If you want to get rich, sell your company, have time for your hobbies, raise a halfway decent family (with mediocre children, etc.), and enjoy the sunset with your wife on occasion, here are some of my highly effective recommendations.
More positive thinking from Pick The Brain today….
Does Your Life Even Matter?
Go to work. Come home. Eat Dinner. Go to sleep. Wake up.
Rinse, recycle, repeat.
Do you ever wonder…
Does my life even matter?
There is magic and fear behind this question.
Deep down inside – you know that you matter! You know your life has meaning! You know you have a purpose!
But if your life matters, has meaning, and purpose… You’re forced to ask yourself:
Why am I living each day stuck on repeat?
Choose to Live a Meaningful Life Today
There’s this great post from writer James Altucher on his blog, I stumbled across this morning. James is a very clever writer as it happens and here he talks about the time he hit rock bottom.
“In my anthropological study of bottom here’s what I’ve discovered:
– everybody has stopped choosing you: wife, boss, money, publishers, newspapers, people who hand out opportunities, girlfriends. You get unchosen by everyone. Maybe even your health unchooses you. You’ve become the opposite of “The Chosen”. You are now “the Chosen-less”. Welcome to BOTTOM, bitch.”
“People write me every day. Every hour. “I’ve hit bottom. I’m stuck. What can I do?”
I will tell you right now. First off, don’t try to please anyone else. They can’t choose you anymore. You’ve hit bottom. You’re a loser.
Follow this checklist one at a time. They are in order. Then you will get out of bottom.”
He goes on to list ten (eleven) straightforward things that are going to make a difference.
7) No alcohol. Alcohol is a depressant and causes cancer and stomach troubles. Why add that to your misery? I get it – you lose inhibitions on alcohol and that helps you to be more courageous. But you don’t need it today. There’s nothing to be courageous for.
8) Don’t talk to people who will put you down. If you have to be around them ( a boss, a child, a parent, a spouse, etc) then just don’t engage. Don’t gossip with them. Don’t try to please them. Don’t call them back. Don’t say to yourself, “well, I have to call them back.” You don’t. Do you think 100 years from now it will matter if you call them back today? 100 years from now nobody will care at all what you did today.
Read the full post : ‘How to Get Off of Bottom Once and FOR ALL’
I was having my regular scan through my ‘Inspiration’ folder in my RSS Reader (sadly Google are doing away with Google Reader, so I’m jumping ship to Feedly) when I came across one of Leo Babauta’s regular nuggets of optimism at Zen Habits and a rather apt Churchill quote
“If you’re going through hell, keep going”
Leo goes on to explain how to get through those rocky moments.
“We’d like to think that making positive life changes is a straight line from beginning to where we want to go. But life has taught us differently.
Experience shows us that you can start a new habit (let’s say working out) and things go great for awhile, and then life gets in the way. Things get messy. Things fall apart. We have a few bad days, or a huge project to work on at work, or relationship problems, or a family crisis, or we get sick.
What do we do when life gets messy and our habits fall to the wayside? Well, give up, obviously.
Actually, I take that back. We tend to give up, because when things get in the way and we mess up on our habits, it’s a little discouraging, even depressing.
But it doesn’t have to be. There are a few things you can do instead:”
Good post over at Lifehack.
“This is a list of 5 things I’ve tried in my own life just to help me believe in a brighter future and get past a tough situation”.
1.Reflect On the Bad Times in Your Life
This may sound like a bad idea, but it does serve a purpose: you may feel depressed when thinking about past sorrows, but the idea behind reflecting on past hardship isn’t to run you down; it’s to prove to yourself that you have gotten past them. Usually we’re afraid that a tough time will break us, but when you think about the countless times you’ve actually gotten past what you thought was the worst experience in your life only proves that you’ve gotten stronger. Allow those victories to be an opportunity for you to see beyond the baggage in front of you…….
PickTheBrain.com is, in its own words “a website dedicated to self improvement with a focus on personal productivity, motivation, and self education.” and every now and then they have a universal gem thats worth passing around.
‘How to Stop Fearing Big Changes’ by Steve Bloom is one of them and looks at the psychology of change and how to cope with it.
Transitions aren’t always easy. But everyone has to face them at one time or another.
Something I’ve learned is that the change or transition itself isn’t very frightening. What’s scary is the thought of ending up in a miserable place by the time you get through it.
The worst-case scenario won’t happen.
Right before you decide to take a chance, embrace that change and make a bold step towards something you want, a nasty thought will pop into your head. It’s the shrill lingering thought that something absolutely horrible will happen if you do it.
Jonathan Fields has a great motivational post on his blog called ‘How to Get Your Mojo Back and Do Big Things TODAY’ where he looks at the motivation behind New Years Resolutions.
Resolutions don’t change bodies, minds, careers, businesses and lives, actions do.
But, without the right approach, it can be near impossible to take the actions needed to get where you’re desperate to go!
Behavior change—exercise, diet, meditation, changing careers or launching a business, writing a book, making art—it’s hard, really hard. Most people fail. Not because they’re incapable of doing what needs to be done, but because they don’t know how to do it right.
He goes on into an indepth list of seven key steps and actions,including this, the second one on his list……
Support – On three levels, if possible: peer support, co-striver support and mentor support.
Peer support is critical as a source of inspiration, information and accountability.
Co-striver support (people who are striving to do similar things at similar times) adds the element of creating what’s called a “normalizing” experience. Knowing a tight-knit group of co-strivers are going through similar struggles, embracing tough challenges and working through them makes you realize you’re not alone and, although it’s tough, there are others right there with you and you’re all going to get through it together.
Read more ‘How to Get Your Mojo Back and Do Big Things TODAY’ (Jonathan Fields)