How to Get Off Of Rock Bottom



There’s this great post from writer James Altucher on his blog, I stumbled across this morning. James is a very clever writer as it happens and here he talks about the time he hit rock bottom.

“In my anthropological study of bottom here’s what I’ve discovered:

– everybody has stopped choosing you: wife, boss, money, publishers, newspapers, people who hand out opportunities, girlfriends. You get unchosen by everyone. Maybe even your health unchooses you. You’ve become the opposite of “The Chosen”. You are now “the Chosen-less”. Welcome to BOTTOM, bitch.”

“People write me every day. Every hour. “I’ve hit bottom. I’m stuck. What can I do?”

I will tell you right now. First off, don’t try to please anyone else. They can’t choose you anymore. You’ve hit bottom. You’re a loser.

Follow this checklist one at a time. They are in order. Then you will get out of bottom.”

He goes on to list ten (eleven) straightforward things that are going to make a difference.

My favourites:

7) No alcohol. Alcohol is a depressant and causes cancer and stomach troubles. Why add that to your misery? I get it – you lose inhibitions on alcohol and that helps you to be more courageous. But you don’t need it today. There’s nothing to be courageous for.

8) Don’t talk to people who will put you down. If you have to be around them ( a boss, a child, a parent, a spouse, etc) then just don’t engage. Don’t gossip with them. Don’t try to please them. Don’t call them back. Don’t say to yourself, “well, I have to call them back.” You don’t. Do you think 100 years from now it will matter if you call them back today? 100 years from now nobody will care at all what you did today.

Read the full post : ‘How to Get Off of Bottom Once and FOR ALL’

If You’re Going Through Hell….


I was having my regular scan through my ‘Inspiration’ folder in my RSS Reader (sadly Google are doing away with Google Reader, so I’m jumping ship to Feedly) when I came across one of  Leo Babauta’s regular nuggets of optimism at Zen Habits and a rather apt Churchill quote

“If you’re going through hell, keep going”

Leo goes on to explain how to get through those rocky moments.

We’d like to think that making positive life changes is a straight line from beginning to where we want to go. But life has taught us differently.

Experience shows us that you can start a new habit (let’s say working out) and things go great for awhile, and then life gets in the way. Things get messy. Things fall apart. We have a few bad days, or a huge project to work on at work, or relationship problems, or a family crisis, or we get sick.

What do we do when life gets messy and our habits fall to the wayside? Well, give up, obviously.
Actually, I take that back. We tend to give up, because when things get in the way and we mess up on our habits, it’s a little discouraging, even depressing.
But it doesn’t have to be. There are a few things you can do instead:”

Read More… How to Stick to a Habit When Life Falls Apart          

There Is No Success Without Hardship

There is no success without hardship

Good post over at Lifehack.

“This is a list of 5 things I’ve tried in my own life just to help me believe in a brighter future and get past a tough situation”.

1.Reflect On the Bad Times in Your Life
This may sound like a bad idea, but it does serve a purpose: you may feel depressed when thinking about past sorrows, but the idea behind reflecting on past hardship isn’t to run you down; it’s to prove to yourself that you have gotten past them. Usually we’re afraid that a tough time will break us, but when you think about the countless times you’ve actually gotten past what you thought was the worst experience in your life only proves that you’ve gotten stronger. Allow those victories to be an opportunity for you to see beyond the baggage in front of you…….

Read more… ‘5 Ways to Deal With Hardship and Pain in Life’ (Lifehack)


Fearing Big Changes is, in its own words “a website dedicated to self improvement with a focus on personal productivity, motivation, and self education.” and every now and then they have a universal gem thats worth passing around.

‘How to Stop Fearing Big Changes’ by Steve Bloom is one of them and looks at the psychology of change and how to cope with it.

Fearing Big Changes

Transitions aren’t always easy. But everyone has to face them at one time or another.

Something I’ve learned is that the change or transition itself isn’t very frightening. What’s scary is the thought of ending up in a miserable place by the time you get through it.

The worst-case scenario won’t happen.

Right before you decide to take a chance, embrace that change and make a bold step towards something you want, a nasty thought will pop into your head. It’s the shrill lingering thought that something absolutely horrible will happen if you do it.

Read more…’How To Stop Fearing Big Changes’ (

How To Get Your Mojo Back

Get Your Mojo Back

Jonathan Fields has a great motivational post on his blog called ‘How to Get Your Mojo Back and Do Big Things TODAY’ where he looks at the motivation behind New Years Resolutions.

Resolutions don’t change bodies, minds, careers, businesses and lives, actions do.
But, without the right approach, it can be near impossible to take the actions needed to get where you’re desperate to go!
Behavior change—exercise, diet, meditation, changing careers or launching a business, writing a book, making art—it’s hard, really hard. Most people fail. Not because they’re incapable of doing what needs to be done, but because they don’t know how to do it right.

He goes on into an indepth list of seven key steps and actions,including this, the second one on his list……

Support – On three levels, if possible: peer support, co-striver support and mentor support.
Peer support is critical as a source of inspiration, information and accountability.
Co-striver support (people who are striving to do similar things at similar times) adds the element of creating what’s called a “normalizing” experience. Knowing a tight-knit group of co-strivers are going through similar struggles, embracing tough challenges and working through them makes you realize you’re not alone and, although it’s tough, there are others right there with you and you’re all going to get through it together.

Read more ‘How to Get Your Mojo Back and Do Big Things TODAY’ (Jonathan Fields)

Wear Sunscreen

Australian film director Baz Luhrman (‘Strictly Ballroom’, ‘William Shakespeare’s Romeo + Juliet’, ‘Moulin Rouge’ and ‘Australia’) had a massive worldwide pop hit in 1999 with “Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)”.

Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young


I was reminded of its moment of brilliance after hearing it again for the first time in a while on YouTube.

The lyrics are taken from an article written by journalist Mary Schmich titled ‘ Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young’ and published in the Chicago Tribune in June 1997.

“Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.”

“Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.”

Read More….. ‘Advice, Like Youth, Probably Wasted On The Young’ (Chicago Tribune)